Excellence or unhealthy perfectionism? (2)


In this second article John Wyatt reflects on 'How to be a recovering perfectionist' 

An extract..

'The first and perhaps the hardest lesson to learn is that there is no quick fix for unhealthy perfectionism. These traits of thought and behaviour have very deep roots and they become hard-wired in our personalities. The process of change may be slow and uneven. But change is possible. We can gradually become transformed by grace and learn new habits of thought and action. We can learn to put aside maladaptive thought patterns and grow in emotional maturity. We will never lose our longings for excellence (indeed as we saw before this is part of our God-likeness and has many positive aspects), but we can learn to redirect these longings into healthier patterns.'

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Midday tomorrow!

Image
Over recent weeks, in both our morning congregations, we've been trying connect with one another's lives beyond 'Sunday' by hearing from someone about what they will be doing the following day. Obviously this has normally meant Monday morning - but this week we are shifting the question to the end of the week and asking...  'What will you be doing at midday tomorrow (Friday 27th)?' In current circumstances it might be tempting to think everyone's at home, yet the reality is that we're much more diverse than that - not only do we have a number of 'essential workers' in the church family, who are 'out' at work but whose jobs look very different to normal, but those of us working or doing school at home will be establishing different patterns and focusing on very varied things, and of course retirees will be finding their own rhythms to the day.  So whether it is gardening, a maths class (doing it or trying to teach one), accou
Read more

Word Online

Image
Enjoy something of Word Alive from the comfort of your own home! This year Word Alive is Word Online the strapline is 'Plug into the Word', as this is a chance to be refreshed and energised as we hear from God. There is something for everyone as you can see from our daily timetable. Tuesday 6 April – Friday 9 April Here's the basic schedule for each day; a more detailed version is available here . 4pm–4.30pm Children's meeting – Awesome Cutlery, Ed Drew, Colin Buchanan 6.30m–7.15pm Youth meeting 7.45pm–7.55pm Count Everyone In 8pm–9pm Main meeting - with talks by David Cook on Proverbs and music by Olly Knight There are also sessions for international students running throughout the day – more information here . Seminar Tracks in April & May The Word Online continues after Word Alive week itself. Starting on Monday 12 April 3 seminar tracks  will run weekly for 5 sessions, ending with a live Q&A with the speaker. Three outstanding speake
Read more

Reaching your neighbours - the Mezei's front window!

Image
It feels like yesterday we were doing Christmas in our house. Last year we so enjoyed getting ready for it, celebrating Advent, probably the proper way for the first time. Lockdown has its uses J ! As Lent came round we asked ourselves why we give more importance to Advent and not to Lent. Surely both are as important! Both are amazing news for humanity. So we decided to do Advent the ‘right’ way this year. Of course, with a one and four year old, it might look a lot different to how others celebrate it, but we found ways to involve everyone in our family and to make it meaningful. In December, like others in the church, we made use of our front window to make a giant nativity scene. Let’s just say that if anyone had any doubts we were Christians, they now knew better! The kids so enjoyed making it and adding to it as Advent progressed (although Clara was not too sure she liked her baby doll in the window!). But most of all we loved seeing people stop to look at the scene and read
Read more